NPR: 5 questions you should ask your partner before getting married

1. Is there anything that you (or I) are not willing to give up once we're married?

This question gets at your non-negotiables, and respecting what each of you needs in order to thrive. Identify your core needs and what's driving them, and make sure you and your partner are aligned on that being a part of your life.

2. Can you handle me doing things without you?

We all have simultaneous needs for connection and autonomy. These opposing needs both always exist — so find a balance with your partner. It's a red flag if they don't want you to have autonomy.

Read the entire article here: https://www.npr.org/2023/03/09/1162385260/5-questions-to-ask-each-other-before-marriage